Mirror work is a technique that has helped many people (including myself) deepen self-acceptance and build healthier relationships with themselves.
Why Mirror Work?
For years, I avoided mirrors. I would spend five hurried minutes applying makeup and then quickly walk away to mask the parts of myself I didn’t want to face. I carried deep insecurities, constantly needing to prove my worth to the world. Over time, this self-criticism became exhausting, leaving me struggling with feelings of fear and inadequacy.
When I discovered mirror work, I was sceptical. The idea of looking myself in the eye and speaking words of affirmation felt awkward and uncomfortable. However, as I practised, something shifted. I began to see myself not through the lens of criticism but with compassion and acceptance. This practice helped me embrace my imperfections and step into my authentic self.
How to Practise Mirror Work
Mirror work is both simple and powerful. Here’s how you can get started.
Begin with Self-Affirmation
Stand in front of a mirror and imagine you’re speaking to your best friend. If this feels too vulnerable, start by repeating a simple affirmation: “I love you. I love you. You are enough.” Say it at least ten times daily for a week or until you feel comfortable.
Use Three Key Statements
Once you’re comfortable with speaking to yourself in the mirror, move on to these three powerful prompts:
- I am Proud of You: Acknowledge your efforts and victories. For example, “I, [Your Name], am proud of you for staying committed to sobriety.”
- I Forgive You: Release self-blame by addressing past mistakes. For instance, “I, [Your Name], forgive you for not prioritising your well-being.”
- I Commit to You: Reinforce your dedication to yourself. For example, “I, [Your Name], commit to honouring my needs and pursuing my dreams.”
Engage with Your Left Eye
Some believe that looking into your left eye during mirror work connects you to your soul, which can enhance the emotional depth of the practice and help you feel more attuned to yourself.
Write It Down
Write down your affirmations before or after speaking them for additional clarity and focus. This tangible act can help solidify your intentions.
The Science and Benefits Behind Mirror Work
Mirror work activates the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for the body’s rest-and-digest functions. This, in turn, calms the mind, reduces self-sabotaging behaviours, and promotes emotional healing. Overall, mirror work strengthens our connection with ourselves, boosts self-esteem, and overcomes insecurities.
Practising mirror work daily can:
- Help you overcome self-doubt and insecurities.
- Build a stronger sense of self-worth.
- Strengthen your connection with your authentic self.
- Boost your ability to self-soothe and navigate challenges with resilience.
Recovery Through Self-Love
Recovery is a journey of rediscovering and celebrating who you are, and mirror work is a simple yet effective way to nurture that journey. By making time each day to look yourself in the eye and affirm your worth, you begin to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion. So, grab a mirror and start your journey. Speak your truth, embrace your imperfections, and let your light shine.
This practice isn’t about perfection but progress—it’s about showing up for yourself as you are, with love and acceptance. Together, we can continue to heal, grow, and thrive. Remember, you are worthy, you are enough, and you deserve love—starting with your own.
